BEWARE! The 2nd Question to Lock In Your MOTIVATIONAL MINDSET

Your Mindset will Make or Break You

Are YOU ready for a breakthrough?

Let’s revisit the kid who was raised to get the A+ and win at all costs.

Let’s say his favorite Coach got him to win the National Championship using the David Goggins approach, described in PART 1 of this series of MOTIVATIONAL MINDSET Posts (linked at the bottom of this post).

Now that he’s a grown man, it’s no surprise he’s continued with the same “Go Hard” Motivational Mindset. It worked back then, and it’s working now: He’s the top Sales Manager for the Tri-State area, and there’s talk he’ll be promoted to Regional Manager in the next quarter.

Problem is, this endless drive to achieve has made him into a workaholic. And, sorry to say, he’s even less fortunate than Mr. Pitbull (who’s been married four times) because he’s not even close to making his girlfriend his wife.

It’s what he wants more than anything.

He wants to live out the rest of his life with her. She’s everything he’s ever wanted in a woman.

They’re passionate about traveling. It’s their dream to see the world together.

But, temperament-wise, they couldn’t be more unalike.

While he’s all about metrics and scores, she’s all about feelings. She’s an Empath, a deep thinker, and that’s what makes her such an amazing Social Worker.

But, her pros are also cons. Because she’s got it in the back of her mind to “change him.” Which we all know is impossible.

Change is possible, but people only change if they want to and they’re ready to.

Despite her misplaced attempts to get him to open up to her and share more of his feelings, it’s not working.

He’s a brick wall.

They have fun together, going out to dinner, seeing international movies, dreaming of traveling the world together, even learning Spanish to take the next step…

But, she’s not able to salsa her way into his heart.

He tells her, “I love you,” and she believes it, but there’s little emotional depth. Not that she can feel.

And can you blame her? He doesn’t share what he’s thinking with her — not when it comes to his internal thoughts, beliefs, and feelings.

He thinks he’s showing her he cares, but he senses it too: she’s already begun to pull away. She seems distant and depressed, and they’re fighting more and more about random, unimportant things.

So, what’s a Wannabe Groom to do?

He can’t force her into believing that they’re meant to be.

He has to show her, to express how he feels so that she can feel and know it, viscerally.

The Problem is: Not understanding or knowing how to “Go Soft.”

“Going Soft” was never modeled for him. Not by his Coach. And not by his parents, who both preferred the “Go Hard” approach.

He’s never had a reason to try “Going Soft.” Going Hard’s always worked for him: in sports and at work.

But that’s not what’s dooming him.

What’s the worst?

He’s not open to TRYING “Going Soft.”

The girlfriend buys him a book about how modern-day men can open up.

But, as soon as he reads it, Wannabe Groom feels queasy. It’s giving him Flower-Child vibes and he doesn’t want to touch it with a ten-foot pole.

So, our couple’s at a crossroads.

If he does nothing and stays stuck to his “Go Hard” approach, they’ll surely break up.

But, he thinks — no, he knows — and tells himself, “This SOFT mushy crap is NOT for me.”

“STOP!”

Isn’t that what you want to scream at him?

I do!

I want to tell him, “You feel that way, NOT because it’s ‘not for you,’ but because it’s unfamiliar.”

That’s all!

We simply forget that fact: that it takes TIME and EFFORT to make something unfamiliar familiar.

What’s the solution?

We MUST be willing to TRY New Motivational Mindsets Before We Write Them Off!

So ask yourself the 2nd most important question to lock in your Motivational Mindset:

Are YOU open to trying New Motivational Mindsets, or have you already written them off?

The Experimenter of Motivational Mindsets honors & respects the Experimenter of Motivational Mindsets in each of you,

Marisa

Stay Tuned for PART 3: The Reminder You Need, to Lock In Your MOTIVATIONAL MINDSET

Missed PART 1?

Then, read it here: The 1 Question to Lock In Your MOTIVATIONAL MINDSET