How to Beat Social Comparison

Let’s EXPERIMENT, Together

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In my STUDY, SAVOR, & SUPPORT Each Other CHAT☕️🍵, we’re doing a deep-dive into our Book Club selection! This week is Chapter 6 of BECOMING AN ARTIST: Reinventing Yourself Through Mindful Creativity by Dr. Ellen J. Langer.

In Chapter 6: The Mindlessness of Social Comparison, EL says psychologists have studied how our tendency to engage in social comparison (SC) affects us, and found that SCs can either

  1. inspire us to take action, or
  2. demoralize and therefore inhibit us from acting.

In particular, they found that “when the accomplishments of others seem attainable, they will inspire us; when they seem unattainable, they may be undermining.”

This may sound like a downer, but it’s not. Because…

We are In Control

As long as we do not allow our Monkey Minds to trick us into believing its F.E.A.R.s (False Evidence Appearing Real), we get to decide whether the accomplishments of others are attainable or not.

We simply have to pay mindful attention to our THINKING, especially “how we talk to ourselves about [other people’s] behavior.”

We Control Our Filter

Personally, I find it’s easier to engage in SC when we view those we admire from their past: that’s where we can see how they’ve struggled and overcome many of the same or similar obstacles and challenges we might be facing.

It can help to make a far-away goal feel attainable, after all.

And, slowly but surely, it can shift our Mindset. Until our default becomes the empowering type of SC, not the undermining kind.

Where’s Your Mindset Now?

One of the best ways to measure where our Mindset falls on the spectrum between undermining and empowering is to ask ourselves the following question:

Are “successful people” successful because they’re naturally talented, or are they successful because they put in the effort?

I consider this one of the ultimate “Half-Glass Full vs. Half-Glass Empty” questions in life.

Intellectually, I believe the “correct” answer is that it’s the effort that ultimately determines whether someone will be successful or not.

Emotionally, I feel that’s the “correct” answer most of the time. When I’m feeling great. When I’m positive. When I feel self-confident and full of personal power.

But, I must admit that, when my emotions are down, or I’m off in some other way — like I’m super tired or hangry — my Inner Critic starts screaming like a banshee and its F.E.A.R. says that their success is attributable to talent.

What if our Highest Self has the BEST Answer?

My Highest Self balances the two, so that it’s not only (1) or only (2), but BOTH:

  1. Talent, alone, cannot guarantee success; and,
  2. Through effort, one can cultivate talent.

But, how does one do that?

The VICTUS Method: We can THINK-DO-&-BE our way to our Highest Self!

I strongly believe that, to transform ourselves to become who we CHOOSE to be, to reach who we are MEANT to be, we need to THINK-DO-&-BE our way to our Highest Self.

Like a Venn Diagram, I imagine three circles intersecting in the middle, and remind myself — often — that I need all three to effect long-lasting change.

And repetition matters.

So much so, I’d go so far as to say that…

The Routine of Repetition is The Secret to Our Success

And it’s also the secret behind our failure.

By that I mean, whatever Repetition Routine we happen to have at any given time in our life, we will either be going in the direction of succeeding or failing, of empowering ourselves or undermining ourselves.

PROBLEM IS: Our Repetition Routine is often not “chosen,” but comes to be in an absent-minded, mindless way, with little to no thought behind it.

Often because “that’s just the way it’s done,” according to some unwritten “Roles Rulebook” that society tells us to follow, explicitly or implicitly.

Most of us have a Repetition Routine where we engage in Non-Stop Social Comparison.

Let’s break it down, shall we?

THINK:

Looking back, I know from where my Inner Critic’s F.E.A.R. originates: it’s from my nascent Self, who first learned to compare during childhood.

Don’t we all?

It happens whether we want it to or not.

As we go through our educational system, grades are doled out in a curve, and there are only so many As and Bs.

DO:

So, of course, we compare, to position ourselves as best we can, to get the best grades we can, to get the best jobs we can, to get the best homes/cars/things as we can.

BE:

Which brings us back to the beginning: the research. As we crane our necks to see what our Dear Neighbors are doing, we feel the same way the research participants felt…This is our sense of BEING:

“If we attribute their success to their efforts, we are more likely to think that if we put in the effort we can achieve the result. If we attribute their success to talent we are lacking, we become demoralized.”

⭐️ WHAT IF…there’s a BETTER WAY of BEING?

EL suggests, “we can give up making these mindless evaluations which only make it more difficult to begin any new creative endeavor.”

Wow.

Do you think that’s possible?

Is it possible to completely GIVE UP the habit of Social Comparison?

Don’t worry if you don’t think that it is.

Even EL says, “Is there research evidence that we can be completely non-evaluative in this way? I don’t know of any. Perhaps Buddha and other spiritual leaders achieved such a state, but most of us have not.”

🤣

Even so, I find the idea of relinquishing this urge to draw social comparisons freeing.

If we cannot get rid of SC entirely, might we at least loosen our grip on this tendency, and be more at peace as a result?

I believe we can.

Because, time and time again, I’ve been able to negate my F.E.A.R.s, through a combination of identifying and changing my hidden Limiting Beliefs (THINK), solidifying better, more Empowering Beliefs through action (DO), and doing it repeatedly until they’re my default, hard-wired beliefs (BE).

Let’s Reframe Social Comparison & Empower Ourselves toward Success!

It’s not that we need to shut our eyes to reality.

We shouldn’t stick our heads in the sand.

Instead, let’s look to others for suggestions only — to show us that possibility and opportunity exists — and make sure that what they do can and will work for us as individuals, in a context-specific way that applies uniquely to us.

It’s worked for me. Might it work for you, too?

For example, in the past, I described how the “SELL, SELL, SELL” Model of Marketing didn’t align with me, so I exposed myself to new ideas, broadened my perspective to see that Other Ways of BEING a “Marketer” existed, and discovered a new way to do Marketing that was soul-centered & connection-centric.

But that knowledge, alone, was not enough.

I had to go beyond that thinking to doing, to actually experience that kind of soul-centered & connection-centric Marketing.

To my amazement, it was such a wonderful experience that I feel ready & willing to do it again!

Now, I’m at the point in my journey where I just need to repeat it, again and again, to BE the soul-centered, connection-centric “Marketer” I now know & trust I can be.

And, how blissful it is, to do Marketing in this aligned way.

It’s allowed me to realize how much peace can be gained when I’m mindfully aware of the costs of Social Comparison, let go of my need to control, and look for “possibility and opportunity” instead.

My curiosity’s peaked.

My imagination’s revved up.

I’m wondering what other Creative Practices I could apply this Mindful awareness to.

I’m ready to do my own series of experiments. Aren’t you?

It sounds like a grand adventure to try, and it’s the perfect opportunity to have some FUN!

Why not? Experiencing more peace sounds like a wonderfully promising reward to me.

Now, take a Mindful Minute, to ask yourself:

⭐️ Do YOU want to LET GOof Social Comparison, too?

⭐️ Then here’s my invitation to you: JOIN ME IN AN EXPERIMENT!

Choose a creative activity to pursue.

One that will allow you to practice the empowering kind of SC we all hope to do.

I look forward to hearing what YOU choose.

⭐️ But, before you do, consider lowering the stakes.

You might be like, “Huh?”

I know, I know. You might be a Type A person like me, too.

But, don’t get me wrong. There’s a reason why I’m suggesting we lower the stakes:

It’s because we don’t want to trigger our Sympathetic Nervous System to launch into a fight-flight-freeze-fawn-or-flop response.

Instead, we want to encourage our Parasympathetic Nervous System to stay engaged. Not to the point that we’re in “rest-or-digest,” but to the point that we’re relaxed enough to PLAY.

If we choose a creative endeavor that is too closely tied to our sense of identity, it will be that much harder for us to NOT engage in the undermining type of social comparison that we’re trying to avoid, because the stakes will be too high.

Instead, try to choose a creative activity where if we succeed or fail, it will not trigger any type of over-identification with the Self.

I can’t wait to hear what you choose…and look forward to sharing my choice next week!

To make it extra fun, I’m going to couple it with something BIG that I’ve been planning for a while now…

So STAY TUNED!

And, in the meantime, let your imagination wonder…

⭐️ What Creative Practice could YOU try, to THINK-DO-&-BE your way to becoming who you are MEANT to be?

⭐️ Can you imagine, how amazing it will feel, to step into your Higher Self & PLAY your way to Success?

🧠🎨The VICTUS Player in Me🎨🧠

🧠🎨honors & respects the VICTUS Player in Each of You,🎨🧠

Marisa

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Your kind contribution can be the greatly-appreciated rocket fuel that inspires me to keep living according to My Motto: Vita est pro victus! which meansLife is for Living — Truly Living!” Not as some shell of who we should be. But as our truest, most Authentic Self.

That’s MY MISSION in life: to encourage myself & others to BREAK FREE, to Be Our Truest, Most Authentic Self!

Join me! Together, we can be who we CHOOSE to be. Who we’re MEANT to be:

Happy & Healthy ♾️ Creating a life we LOVE ♾️ Full of Hope, Passion, & Purpose

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Let’s TRUST in our ability to be at peace.

Together, we can support each other on our healing journeys, to be the Creatives we are meant to be.

Together, we can BREAK FREE.

We can find solutions, together! Please join us in my

This is a special group for Writers, Artists, & Creatives like us, to have deep conversations about the Books that we choose, so we can implement what we learn, and unearth our truest, most Authentic Selves.

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Share Our Recipes for Happiness:

🔮 Have fun together;

🔮 Share our triumphs;

🔮 Vent from time to time — we’re human after all!

🔮 Take a lighthearted approach to private journaling & Artist’s Dates; and,

🔮 Grow the CREATIVE GENIUS inside all of us! 💐🌺🌷🌸🌹🌻🌼

Share Our Work (allow our True Self to be Seen):

🚀 With Notes Boost Challenges (NBC), we can share our favorite Notes of the week.

🚀 And, when we’d like, we can share our Works In Progress (WIP) and/or Final Posts, Music, & Art…whatever we’re proud of!

🚀 So we can Like, Comment, and/or Restack each others’ work to…

Share Our Joy (experience Connection):

🙌 This is how we can come together, to grow through our own individual efforts, and feel the support of a kind & supportive Creative Community, too.

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A Happy Mother’s Day wish for everyone who’s ever mothered you (including you)♥️

May you have happiness, joy, & peace today

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Happy Mother’s Day!

To all of the wonderful Mothers out there, I hope you’re having a beautifully relaxing and enjoyable day with your loved ones!

I’m having a fantastic time celebrating with my family & two young kids, and I wanted to wish the same for you.

I also wanted to take this time to address any of you who may not be celebrating today. Perhaps your mother’s passed, or maybe your mother didn’t mother you the way that you deserved, so today is especially hard for you.

Whatever your circumstances might be, if you are feeling down today, please know that I am thinking of you.

And sending you this gentle reminder that mothers are more than the women who’ve given birth to us. Mothers are everywhere.

Your friends may be the ones who mother you, with their caring and uplifting spirit. Or, it may be a cousin, an aunt, or an older woman in your life. Indeed, the beautifully nurturing and supportive spirit of a “Mother” can be expressed by anyone, even by the men in our lives. No matter who it is, I hope you can be in their presence and feel their nurturing spirit embracing you today.

I strongly believe that, while mothers are amazing, anyone can be the mother we deserve. Especially us, when we mother ourselves.

I wish you love today and, to that end, I share the following with you. I hope it brings you peace.

From my conversation with Priya, linked below:

⭐️Question⭐️

The epigraph, “Family is defined by choice, not by birth or blood. Family is worth fighting for,” sits at the very front of the book like a thesis. Did that line come to you early, or did you find it only after the story had already told you what it was about?

When I started writing THE OBSIDIAN CHRONICLES, I knew I wanted to write a science fiction story that was full of supernatural powers that defy time but, more than that, I wanted it to be a story about what remains true no matter how much time passes: the tremendous power of love to shape or break us.

I was inspired to write this epigraph because of the way we come to define our sense of Self: based on the private relationship we develop with ourselves, and the relationships that we forge in community with others, whether they are part of our family or not.

If we’re lucky, we’re raised with parents and maybe siblings and extended relatives who give us a sense of belonging, acceptance, and understanding. They may be the mirror that allows us to see our true, Authentic Self, and their love can power us forward, to give us the strength to grow into who we are meant to be. They have the capacity to teach us how to accept, respect, love, and cherish ourselves in the way that we all deserve.

Some people, like my main character, Jai, are lucky enough to have had that experience with their birth family, but Jai suffers tremendously in other ways. And not everyone enjoys a close relationship with their birth family at all. We see that in the lives that the other characters experience. They feel a sense of disconnection from themselves and others. They don’t feel safe or securely attached to other people because that was not what was modeled to them in their own upbringing. Or, they were and are deeply loved by their family and friends, but trauma scarred them.

Ultimately, I hope readers can see some part of themselves reflected in these characters, because all of us can feel incomplete or somehow broken. I know I am not immune and, sadly, I think that is one of the biggest challenges that we face in our world right now: a sense of disconnection from ourselves and from each other. We’re urged to wear a mask and perform perfectly. We’re expected to be infallible when no one is. It gives us this haunting sense of discomfort. Like no matter how hard we try, we won’t be “good enough.” That’s a problem when we all need and deserve to feel like we’re truly seen, accepted, and loved for who we are. Without that, we risk turning our pain inward or, even worse, outward.

THE OBSIDIAN CHRONICLES explores the potential choices we might make, and invites us to see that there’s still hope:

It can feel like it’s “just me,” but it never is. We are not alone in our suffering. We don’t have to struggle all on our own.

And we’re not limited to the family in which we were born. We can find the right people and, when we do, we can strengthen our resolve, find the courage we need to fight, and trust in others because they’ve given us the love we need to not only survive, but thrive.

When the world’s breaking and everything feels hopeless, I try to remind myself that we can be the light to save each other. Together, we can co-create the peace our world needs.

Because our humanity is what makes us a family. And that family is worth fighting for.

So, here’s to having a very happy Mother’s Day!

From the Mother in me to the Mother in each of you,

Marisa

If you’d like to read the entire conversation, here’s Priya’s amazing interview, full of her fun & insightful questions for me, and Priya’s beautiful reflection about my OBSIDIAN series.

Click to READ Priya’s Interview
Click to READ Priya’s Reflection

🧠🎨The Mother in Me🎨🧠

🧠🎨honors & respects the Mother in each of You,🎨🧠

Marisa

READ THE SYNOPSIS

If you enjoy reading it, please consider leaving me a rating & review on Amazon & Goodreads! It’s the the easiest way to support Indie Authors like me.

Your kind contribution can be the greatly-appreciated rocket fuel that inspires me to keep living according to My Motto: Vita est pro victus! which meansLife is for Living — Truly Living!” Not as some shell of who we should be. But as our truest, most Authentic Self.

That’s MY MISSION in life: to encourage myself & others to BREAK FREE, to Be Our Truest, Most Authentic Self!

Join me! Together, we can be who we CHOOSE to be. Who we’re MEANT to be:

Happy & Healthy ♾️ Creating a life we LOVE ♾️ Full of Hope, Passion, & Purpose

© Marisa Victus

👭 Do you want to enlist the help of a Fellow Creative, to help you experience your own Creative Renaissance?

Our CHAT can be a safe place to tell safe people what you’d like to accomplish, so we can all support & cheer you on.

Let’s TRUST in our ability to be at peace.

Together, we can support each other on our healing journeys, to be the Creatives we are meant to be.

Together, we can BREAK FREE.

We can find solutions, together! Please join us in my

This is a special group for Writers, Artists, & Creatives like us, to have deep conversations about the Books that we choose, so we can implement what we learn, and unearth our truest, most Authentic Selves.

It’s the perfect way to

Share Our Recipes for Happiness:

🔮 Have fun together;

🔮 Share our triumphs;

🔮 Vent from time to time — we’re human after all!

🔮 Take a lighthearted approach to private journaling & Artist’s Dates; and,

🔮 Grow the CREATIVE GENIUS inside all of us! 💐🌺🌷🌸🌹🌻🌼

Share Our Work (allow our True Self to be Seen):

🚀 With Notes Boost Challenges (NBC), we can share our favorite Notes of the week.

🚀 And, when we’d like, we can share our Works In Progress (WIP) and/or Final Posts, Music, & Art…whatever we’re proud of!

🚀 So we can Like, Comment, and/or Restack each others’ work to…

Share Our Joy (experience Connection):

🙌 This is how we can come together, to grow through our own individual efforts, and feel the support of a kind & supportive Creative Community, too.

🤗 If that sounds good to you, then join us & say hello!

Join Marisa Victus’s subscriber chat

Subscribe if you want to see where this Creative Journey can take us!

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(1) Every week, you’ll get my free Non-Fiction Newsletter on Substack, entitled Marisa VICTUS: Science of Synergy & Self; and,

(2) You’ll be able to entrain your brain — the quick & easy way — with my Mindset & Meditation (M&M) practice.

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How to Overcome the F.E.A.R. of Being SEEN

Don’t let doing it “the right way” blind you from Pinpointing the Pathway that’s MEANT for YOU

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In my STUDY, SAVOR, & SUPPORT Each Other CHAT☕️🍵, we’re doing a deep-dive into our Book Club selection! This week is Chapter 5 of BECOMING AN ARTIST: Reinventing Yourself Through Mindful Creativity by Dr. Ellen J. Langer.

In Chapter 5: The Rule of Absolutes, EL reminds us that, to make sense, the rules we follow must apply to us as individuals, in a context-specific way that applies uniquely to us.

Yet, we often forget this. We compare what other people are doing, believe in the unspoken belief that there’s a “right way” to do things. And, because of that False Evidence Appearing Real, our F.E.A.R. makes us not try at all or give up prematurely.

What’s the Solution? According to EL, it’s “Putting People Back Into the Equation.”

Without meaning to do this, I recently did exactly that. And it completely transformed a F.E.A.R. that’s held me back…for a long time.

I’m excited to share the whole story with you today. Not because I’ve overcome all of the F.E.A.R.s inside of me. I doubt anyone can. But, I know — for a fact — that when it comes to this fear, I’ve done more than just dip my toe in the water. I’ve leapt off the diving platform, launched into a spinning somersault, and slipped back into the calm, cool water…ready & willing to do it again!

By now, you’re probably wondering…

What’s the F.E.A.R. that’s kept me small for all of these years?

It’s Marketing, my dear friends. Marketing!

For my sci fi series, THE OBSIDIAN CHRONICLES. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE the creative process: the writing, the editing, the artwork, and the music I’m making to accompany it. But, when it comes to Marketing — which, any Author will tell you is equally important — I’ve fallen behind.

Mostly because I had this (irrational) F.E.A.R. that, to do Marketing “the right way,” I would have to “SELL, SELL, SELL!” I’d automatically picture this pushy salesperson, shoving my book into someone’s face, and my enthusiasm would crumble. So, what did I do?

Absolutely NOTHING.

At first, I thought it was my Nervous System revving into a state of Fight-Flight-Freeze-Fawn-or-Flop, and choosing to FREEZE. For a very long time.

But, then, I slowly realized…

That NOT-moving was PRODUCTIVE.

It was my Nervous System realizing that the “SELL, SELL, SELL” Model of Marketing simply was NOT for me. But, I started to have hope that there was a better pathway for me:

The first inkling came when I found Dan Blank here on Substack, and I read his phenomenal book, Be the Gateway: A Practical Guide to Sharing Your Creative Work and Engaging An Audience. For the first time, I realized a “human-centered approach” to marketing existed!

So, in my Synergy of Science & Self Newsletter on Substack, I started to share the 1st Book in my series, OBSIDIAN: Birth to Venus. I even made it available to read for FREE, at the link below:

THE OBSIDIAN CHRONICLES

READ FOR FREE

Then, after writing an especially exciting Chapter, I realized, NOT-moving wasn’t right anymore. I was READY to Move!

Too bad everywhere I looked, I saw lots of the same Marketing “Rule” — to “SELL, SELL, SELL” — being practiced by many successful authors. Of course, I love to sell my books. But, still, there was something about the way that message was conveyed that felt out of alignment with me.

Until, one day, I came across Priya Rajput 💌 on Substack.

And, I knew. I KNEW: Priya’s the “Marketer” I’ve been looking for. Because her focus is on helping authors to forge genuine, authentic connections with readers. So, I didn’t hold back. I told her the truth:

It’s thrilling to publish my creative writing, to go on this Attorney-to-Creative Journey wholeheartedly, but it’s also made me fall woefully behind in some areas, like learning how to do marketing (which is hard for me as an introvert who loves building true connections, rather than “selling”). The metaphor of writing a book and giving birth to it as an author is very accurate. The nervousness, excitement, and desire to do it with love and care are spot on! So, I’m happy to see there are ways to do marketing like yours. In the midst of a lot of hard-hitting paths to “sell, sell, sell!”, your approach to helping authors to share their work in this deeper way is a breath of fresh air. It sounds like such a thoughtful and engaging way to introduce book babies into the world.

In other words — without meaning to — I did exactly what EL encourages us to do: “Putting people back into the Equation.”

I considered how I would feel if I worked with Priya, and was able to discern that her connection-centric approach to Marketing was the “Rule” that was right for me.

So, without further ado, please take a moment to read Priya’s amazing interview, full of her fun & insightful questions for me, and Priya’s beautiful reflection about my OBSIDIAN series.

Click to READ Priya’s Interview
Click to READ Priya’s Reflection

This is precisely why I believe so strongly in the Power of Community to HEAL, and I encourage everyone to find their “RIGHT people.”

Because these are two people who helped my already-open mind to have F.E.A.R.-busting, real-life experiences: Dan Blank‘s words helped me to see a new way of being. And, Priya Rajput 💌‘s heartfelt connection to me and my creative work allowed me to not only see, but experience, Marketing as simply a wholehearted extension of that.

Now, take a Mindful Minute, to ask yourself:

⭐️ How are YOU a unique Creative?

⭐️ Is there a F.E.A.R. holding YOU back?

⭐️ How might you find your own “RIGHT people”?

⭐️ What could you try, to find your own “RIGHT path”?

⭐️ Can you IMAGINE, how amazing it would feel, to overcome your own F.E.A.R.?

🧠🎨The F.E.A.R. Warrior in Me🎨🧠

🧠🎨honors & respects the F.E.A.R. Warrior in You,🎨🧠

Marisa

READ THE SYNOPSIS

If you enjoy reading it, please consider leaving me a rating & review on Amazon & Goodreads! It’s the the easiest way to support Indie Authors like me.

Your kind contribution can be the greatly-appreciated rocket fuel that inspires me to keep living according to My Motto: Vita est pro victus! which meansLife is for Living — Truly Living!” Not as some shell of who we should be. But as our truest, most Authentic Self.

That’s MY MISSION in life: to encourage myself & others to BREAK FREE, to Be Our Truest, Most Authentic Self!

Join me! Together, we can be who we CHOOSE to be. Who we’re MEANT to be:

Happy & Healthy ♾️ Creating a life we LOVE ♾️ Full of Hope, Passion, & Purpose

© Marisa Victus

👭 Do you want to enlist the help of a Fellow Creative, to help you experience your own Creative Renaissance?

Our CHAT can be a safe place to tell safe people what you’d like to accomplish, so we can all support & cheer you on.

Let’s TRUST in our ability to be at peace.

Together, we can support each other on our healing journeys, to be the Creatives we are meant to be.

Together, we can BREAK FREE.

We can find solutions, together! Please join us in my

This is a special group for Writers, Artists, & Creatives like us, to have deep conversations about the Books that we choose, so we can implement what we learn, and unearth our truest, most Authentic Selves.

It’s the perfect way to

Share Our Recipes for Happiness:

🔮 Have fun together;

🔮 Share our triumphs;

🔮 Vent from time to time — we’re human after all!

🔮 Take a lighthearted approach to private journaling & Artist’s Dates; and,

🔮 Grow the CREATIVE GENIUS inside all of us! 💐🌺🌷🌸🌹🌻🌼

Share Our Work (allow our True Self to be Seen):

🚀 With Notes Boost Challenges (NBC), we can share our favorite Notes of the week.

🚀 And, when we’d like, we can share our Works In Progress (WIP) and/or Final Posts, Music, & Art…whatever we’re proud of!

🚀 So we can Like, Comment, and/or Restack each others’ work to…

Share Our Joy (experience Connection):

🙌 This is how we can come together, to grow through our own individual efforts, and feel the support of a kind & supportive Creative Community, too.

🤗 If that sounds good to you, then join us & say hello!

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